tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post4420547549157102819..comments2023-10-22T16:14:20.639+02:00Comments on CafeDA: Perfect relationship?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-12503928534873874532007-07-18T20:27:00.000+02:002007-07-18T20:27:00.000+02:00Respect, pleasure in each other's company, physica...Respect, pleasure in each other's company, physical affection and some independence. Good sex (for both of course:) doesn't hurt.<BR/><BR/>Perhaps if one person keeps a blog?Garyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15148485566444804108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-44894909009497286612007-07-08T23:02:00.000+02:002007-07-08T23:02:00.000+02:00Hi!I am here after a long time ...I would say that...Hi!<BR/><BR/>I am here after a long time ...<BR/>I would say that understanding and caring is the ingredient at least I would want in my marriage!<BR/><BR/><BR/>GBU<BR/>ArtiArti Honraohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17051700436458289929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-19321712566255357192007-07-05T06:21:00.000+02:002007-07-05T06:21:00.000+02:00Well let's see... we've been married nearly 8 yrs ...Well let's see... we've been married nearly 8 yrs and we have 2 kids under the age of 5, and we're still in love with each other... so, I think respect in all ways is the magic ingredient. <BR/>Respect for each other. <BR/>Respect for the vows you've taken and promises you've made. <BR/>Respect for the family you have created together. <BR/>And respect for each other's individuality.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08472987991553964064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-73767087677204120462007-06-30T10:59:00.000+02:002007-06-30T10:59:00.000+02:00The number one ingredient for the perfect marriage...The number one ingredient for the perfect marriage: <B>Loneliness</B><BR/><BR/>Two people that had been lonely, come together, each vowing that the other will never be lonely again.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Sappy garbage, I know, but that's my main reason for ever wanting to get married and put myself through all the dumb little arguments, and risking being cheated on and coming out of the marriage looking like a fool.<BR/><BR/>I'm only 20 and probably won't find someone to marry me for years, unless I lower my standards a lot. The bitter sounding sentences the preceded this one are really just grim predictions of what might happen.<BR/><BR/>But I'm hoping marriage comes for me... that my marriage won't end in divorce or me being betrayed... and that it lasts beautifully, all my life.<BR/><BR/><B>And I want 8 kids, lol.</B>Shanoshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08500867807858419110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-87847154426255590352007-06-30T02:14:00.000+02:002007-06-30T02:14:00.000+02:00Hello again, Dimitri.As the saying goes,The early ...Hello again, Dimitri.<BR/>As the saying goes,<BR/><I>The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese</I>.<BR/><BR/>Definitely, the capacity for language facilitates the development of relationships.<BR/>It can also be said that some basis for civilization would be of utmost importance.<BR/>But I believe it is a degree of sentience, the capacity to recognize one thing as being separate from another, that is the most basic root of all relationships.<BR/><BR/>And while that may sound overly simplistic, the implications are deep; that even in our most intimate moments we are a collection of separations.<BR/>But without that degree of separation, there could be no relationship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-85593957121030257002007-06-28T01:11:00.000+02:002007-06-28T01:11:00.000+02:00Hello, Dimitri.Thinking about this, I would have t...Hello, Dimitri.<BR/>Thinking about this, I would have to say that communication is the No. 1 thing in relationships.<BR/>But even so, that assumes reasonableness (and yes, I've been reading John Rawls), and that both parties are able to negotiate and interact in good faith.<BR/><BR/>And so, I am torn. Perhaps it is indeed "Respect" as the Invisible Woman says. But doesn't "Reasonableness" presuppose respect?<BR/>Is it not entirely reasonable that it is in one's own interest to interact in a respectful manner?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-44302819031293401252007-06-27T22:24:00.000+02:002007-06-27T22:24:00.000+02:00Sense of humor is number one. Respect is number t...Sense of humor is number one. Respect is number two. Listening is number three. Understanding is number four. And number five is allowing one another to have their own space and time when needed.<BR/><BR/>It's worked for us for 20 years and we're still happy and laughing.pissed off patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08854364015577541981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-14124398664224912012007-06-26T16:04:00.000+02:002007-06-26T16:04:00.000+02:00loyalty for me. As Lindsay said, it is really many...loyalty for me. As Lindsay said, it is really many a thing during different times but I'm a loyal person so I guess the return of that is important to me. Loyalty with friends and close ones.Ingridhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15543677729320023767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-26648996702582627652007-06-26T14:49:00.000+02:002007-06-26T14:49:00.000+02:00Hi DA Welcome back. I like to turn to nature itsel...Hi DA <BR/>Welcome back. I like to turn to nature itself and to marvel at its constant adaptation. I think marriage is like a plant that needs its daily food and energy for it to grow. It needs different nutrients, at times of drought it adapts to conserve energy and during the times of plenty it maximises its potential. I don’t think I need to tell you theses things since I think you already know them, for the search for golden elixirs is a futile one! The single most important aspect I think is to be flexible, not to be stubborn or selfish but to adapt to changed tastes and circumstances that will inevitably occur over time during both good and bad times. This requires an ongoing maturity and respect for one anothers opinions and feelings. The only silly question is the one not asked. <BR/><BR/>Hopefully then between my wife and I after 38 years of marriage all that is needed at times is a nod or glance to be understood, maybe signifying its time to leave a party. <BR/><BR/>Best wisheslindsaylobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16774918551798647046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-8709404645762470062007-06-22T08:26:00.000+02:002007-06-22T08:26:00.000+02:00The secret ingredient is that you are taking the t...The secret ingredient is that you are taking the time to think about it..and explore it....that you care enough to search...that is the secret....<BR/><BR/>Congrats on your union...may it be strong and everlasting....enigma4everhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06589997090173140019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-79470701951991478872007-06-21T05:34:00.000+02:002007-06-21T05:34:00.000+02:00Respect.Respect.Blankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10159463105401061130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-11288929621904835402007-06-20T15:47:00.000+02:002007-06-20T15:47:00.000+02:00Honest to goodness caring for each other. I like y...Honest to goodness caring for each other. I like your ingredient though. Sounds perfect.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09454344516994289843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17915403.post-65929500853931061822007-06-20T10:13:00.000+02:002007-06-20T10:13:00.000+02:00I say being grateful for what you have is key for ...I say being grateful for what you have is key for us (20 y married)<BR/>NicoleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com